Keith Craft: Our Family of Origin gives us our first life lessons, by default or by design…
Our Family of Origin gives us our first life lessons, by default or by design, that we spend the rest of our lives either building upon or trying to overcome.
- Source
- From the book Leadershipology 101
The thought behind the quote
No one chooses their family of origin. However, everyone can choose the life lessons they can learn from their family of origin. It is not so much about what happened in your families that determine your outcomes, but how you choose to learn from whatever happened. Whether your parents did less right and more wrong is not the real issue. You can take a default on your parents part and design it for good on your part. You carry the name of your family of origin but you don’t have to wear the stain...if there is one (or more). You can overcome whatever the pain and make it work for your gain.
Read the full thought
When you do this, you not only cease to be a victim, but you use what was a stumbling block and you make it your stepping stone. Begin to design the life and future you want today, by not focusing on the fault or the defaults of those in your family, but by learning to use anything bad for your every good.
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